Three weeks ago we began a Leadership Series. Last week we covered the third morsel: Leadership is not a Commodity. Did you take time to think about how to develop the leadership skills you need for your reality?
This week we are moving on to the fifth morsel: GRIT.
In the immortal words of Mike Tyson, “Everybody has a plan until you get punched in the face!”
How true is that? Don’t some of our biggest disappointments truly hurt? Don’t these disappointment have a physical affect on us?
I love riding! No, not a bicycle, a HARLEY! No matter what kind of bike you prefer, you know there are only 2 kinds of riders … Those who have been down and those who are going down. It’s just part of it!
Life is kind of like riding. You have just been punched in the face and are down, or you WILL be punched in the face and WILL go down. Now, before you get all depressed, there is good news!!!
You can get back up, but it takes GRIT! (Use this worksheet developed by researchers at UPENN to determine your GRIT level). Unlike personality measures that can’t really be changed, the good news is, you CAN change the amount of GRIT you have! How you ask? You find it in a place you might not expect … happiness! “Ahhh, wow,” you say? Yep, pretty cool…
But, when I say happiness, I am not talking about the emotional experience of happiness (smiling and laughing). There is so much more to happiness. Aristotle’s definition describes it best: human flourishing! What does this have to do with grit? Happiness and resilience(grit) are actually 2 sides of the same coin. As we become more aware of what true happiness is, and we develop the habits to experience more of it, our grit increases at the same time!
So how do we increase our happiness and grit? It might be simpler than you expect. Research shows that gratitude is a game changer! Not just feeling gratitude but expressing gratitude! Tell a friend how much they mean to you; thank a colleague for the privilege of working with them; notice how unique your child is and tell them about it! Be intentionally thankful about even the littlest of things each and every day.
Do it today and start increasing your grit! Remember, Happy…Matters!
See you next week!