Resolutions Don’t Work!
I don’t think I have ever made a New Year’s resolution that I actually stuck with. For me, resolutions have always led to feelings of guilt and shame. Recently, I looked at some current research that says 25% of us break our resolutions in the first WEEK and 75% have given up within 3 months! It seems that resolutions don’t really work for most of us!
Below are some reasons I think we can’t seem to be successful and some suggestions for making better resolutions!
- We don’t set reasonable goals. Do we really think we are going to go to the gym at 5am 6 days a week when we haven’t gotten up that early or gone to the gym since last January?!?! Let’s start with reasonable goals we can stick to most of the time! For me, I am committed to consistently drinking more water, and STOP putting food in my mouth when I am full! (Am I going to lose a bunch of weight doing this or become the next marathon winner? Probably not, but it is something I can reasonably do and I know I will feel good about it!)
- When we trip or stumble we think of it as completely “blowing it” and quit or worse, further sabotage ourselves! Have you ever eaten a cookie, felt badly about it and then proceed to eat the whole bag? Instead, let’s give ourselves some leeway. We ALL have bad days, make mistakes, or stumble. Let’s instead use “Persistence, not Perfection” as our new motto! Let’s count our good moments and any progress that we do make!
- Willpower won’t cut it! We can only “push through” for so long and then our will to push on fades! We won’t need willpower if our goals are reasonable, if we provide ourselves with grace when we stumble and count our successes!
So join me on our Facebook page as we re-think our resolutions! Decide what matters to you and how you plan to reasonably see it through! I hope you will share it with us! Remember, no resolution is too small!