Work life balance? NO…that’s a unicorn!!!
People often ask me how to achieve a work life balance. What they really mean is how do they leave work at work and not bring it home. My response is this question… “how do you leave being a mom, dad or spouse at home when you come to work?” The answer is that YOU CAN’T! Striving to balance work and life leads to disappointment and frustration – like spending your life looking for the unicorn or the pot at the end of the rainbow.
The reality is – we are people – at work, at home, with friends. And no matter where we are, we want the same things: to feel valued, to feel connected, to experience happiness. (Remember our expanded definition of happiness – human flourishing?)
I am realizing there are so many little things I can do – no matter where I am – to enrich my life, and the lives of those around me.
The powerful punch of gratitude.
- It is amazing how you begin to view the world when you actively look for things to be grateful for. TRY IT! At the end of each day, commit to writing 3 very specific things that you are grateful for. As you develop this habit, your brain actually begins looking for the positive in situations!
Mindfulness – Pay attention on purpose!
- I can be so much more engaged in my work if I am actually paying attention to what I am doing in this moment. The same is true of enjoying my family. I can’t change what just happened and I can’t control what is going to happen, but I CAN be 100% present right now, right here – wherever here is!!
It can be difficult to leave work at the door – I know I can’t do it! Just like I can’t forget I am a mom while I am working. Maybe balance really isn’t what we should be striving for. Maybe we should start focusing on being in the moment – no matter where that moment takes place and no matter what it requires of us.
I never really like unicorns – they are pretty creepy – so I am going to stop chasing them and put my efforts into things that really matter!!